Intro to BDSM 101 - The common sense your mother taught you and how amazingly effective it is even in the kink scene

(Warning this is not my writing I took this from SirRoberto's fetlife page all credit given to him and not myself!!!)

"Lots of chatter of late regarding misgivings at events, parties and gatherings where people have crossed the line and others have called them out. Subsequently members of this community begin commenting, speculating and arguing as to what may or may not have happened, were the parties involved credible, what were they likely thinking, Is this another case of sub/Dom drama? Everyone's a speculator because only the people involved know the actual truth, and each speculator has their own opinion and how they themselves hold the key to the ultimate resolution.

Well now...isn't that special?

Ok I'm jumping on the bandwagon! I have compiled a list which I know is The ultimate and complete list of everything you wanted to know about BDSM etiquette and rules but were afraid to ask - Especially if you read 50 shades of grey and this is one of your first events EVERRR!

Here's my damn list:

1. Share everything.
2. Play fair.
3. Don't hit people. (this rule has exceptions which require some negotiation we can talk about that later)
4. Put things back where you found them.
5. CLEAN UP YOUR OWN MESS.
6. Don't take things that aren't yours.
7. Say you're SORRY when you HURT somebody.
8. Wash your hands before you eat.
9. Flush.
10. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
11. Live a balanced life - learn some and drink some and draw some and paint some and sing and dance and play and work everyday some.
12. Take a nap every afternoon.
13. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.
14. Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
15. Goldfish and hamster and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
16. And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.”

Oh shucks you caught me. This is actually the list of "Everything I need to know in life I learned in kindergarten".

Guess what? 95% of this stuff works really really well when applied to the lifestyle no matter if you're a newbie or a pillar of the community who refuses to shut up about their depth of knowledge and experience regarding the Old Guard ways of doing things.

We don't need no stinkin' Intro to BDSM 101 classes. What we need are classes on how to abide by this list and on how to use common sense. Because common sense is what I see lacking most in these situations and the ensuing debates regarding rules, consent and the victim blaming game.

So now the question becomes...Are you smarter than a kindergartner?"

Thank You again SirRoberto!

KINK ON MY FRIENDS AND HAVE A BUGGY DAY!